You know what I thought about on my way to work today? Of course you don't - because you don't live in my mind. I'd like to share with you though, so - here goes:
Sometimes we try to be nice to people by not saying "no" when they make inappropriate or inconvenient requests of our resources (such as time or money), but then - having accepted to help - actually do nothing, because it was a request we simply couldn't have granted in the first place.
In this case, the other person - the one we tried to be nice to by not turning them down, leaves the experience even more hurt than they would have been if we had said an outright "no" at the beginning.
Addressing this is quite easy, really. Next time you're about to say "yes" without thinking, hold-on and double-check. If you know you're not going to do it, there's no point setting the wrong expectations.
Just say "no".
Cheers!
True talk o. Aptly said. Thanks for the reminder.
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